My deepest sympathy for your great loss. Deep pain and sorrow fills your hearts at this time. May you find comfort and strength in the Almighty God words at Psalms 34:18 "Jehovah is close to the brokenhearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit "  It saddened him when we shed tears of sorrow. Through his Word he gives us comfort and hope for those who have fallen asleep in death. As Jesus words promised at John 6:40.